by Helen and Sammy
Nothing is off the cards.
One question a week, answered by the people it is actually about.
Thank you. I am keeping the answers to myself until Monday morning, so that nobody's vote nudges anybody else's. Come back then and I will show you the whole picture.
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Three quiet questions to help you listen to yourself.
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There is no test or label that tells you that you are trans. Many people recognise it because the gender recorded on their birth certificate does not fit who they are, and that…
Chidi moved between two communities that did not quite hold him, until he stopped looking for a place to belong and started building one.

Helen has spent years listening to people who have transitioned. What they told her, in kitchens and waiting rooms and long emails sent late at night, changed how she understood…

Online hate targeting trans people is not acceptable, full stop. The same standards we apply to racist or homophobic abuse must apply to transphobic comments, whether they appear…
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Try the quiz →Sora's grandmother never learned the vocabulary, but she knew her grandchild completely, and on a quiet December morning she relabelled the Christmas stocking without anyone…

Mei spent months relearning her voice in secret, until one Tuesday phone call made her realise the smallest reclamations land the hardest.
When trans people don't fit the system, they carry the cost: mismatched documents, forms with no right box, care pathways built for one kind of story, and waits that run for…
An autistic man who spent decades quietly finding himself asked Sammy whether the same child, born into today's world, would have been guided somewhere he was never meant to go.
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