by Helen and Sammy
Nothing is off the cards.
One question a week, answered by the people it is actually about.
Thank you. I am keeping the answers to myself until Monday morning, so that nobody's vote nudges anybody else's. Come back then and I will show you the whole picture.
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The Democratic Party is retreating on trans rights, with figures like Amy Acton publicly referring to trans girls as boys. This is not a fringe position but a deliberate,…
Detransition means returning to living in the gender assigned at birth, but the reasons are varied and often misrepresented. Some people detransition because of social pressure,…
NHS waiting times for trans young people currently run to several years, and delay is not neutral: unwanted puberty changes and worsening distress are well-documented harms of…
Three quiet questions to help you listen to yourself.
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Testosterone thickens and lengthens the vocal folds and enlarges the voice box, so the voice drops, usually starting within a few months and settling over a year or two. That…
Rohan dreaded the recovery weeks after top surgery, until his friend stayed for every boring, undramatic, necessary day of it.

No, trans people are not just autistic. The two can overlap, because both can involve difficulty fitting in, and some autistic people find it harder to hide who they are. But they…
Inés was fifteen, hiding in hoodies in July and typing her feelings into a search box at 2am, until a friend asked what name she wanted to be called.

The claim that cis women need protection from trans women is not supported by evidence. Trans women and girls are statistically far more likely to be victims of violence, abuse,…
Try she, he and they on for size. Nothing fixed, no pressure.
Try the quiz →Rachel had rehearsed the conversation for months, at three in the morning, alone. What she could not have rehearsed was how ordinary it would turn out to be.

There is no prescribed path once you decide to transition. Some people go in tiny steps and others change everything at once, depending on family, money and access to care. Social…
Margaret was a grandfather of sixty-three, sitting in a kitchen at two in the morning with the screen brightness turned down, when she finally pressed the checkout button on her…
Sora's grandmother never learned the vocabulary, but she knew her grandchild completely, and on a quiet December morning she relabelled the Christmas stocking without anyone…
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