by Helen and Sammy
Nothing is off the cards.
One question a week, answered by the people it is actually about.
Thank you. I am keeping the answers to myself until Monday morning, so that nobody's vote nudges anybody else's. Come back then and I will show you the whole picture.
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Detransition means returning to living in the gender assigned at birth, but the reasons are varied and often misrepresented. Some people detransition because of social pressure,…
Three quiet questions to help you listen to yourself.
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The most effective way to reduce the need for gender affirming surgery is to give trans young people the right puberty at the right time. Social transition, puberty blockers and…
He grew up in 1970s Britain reading C.S. Lewis by torchlight and longing to be one of the brothers, not the girl they all thought he was, and it would take four decades, two…

Online hate targeting trans people is not acceptable, full stop. The same standards we apply to racist or homophobic abuse must apply to transphobic comments, whether they appear…
A young wheelchair user and their carer find that gender services and disability services each act as if the other does not exist, until one small act of recognition changes…

Try she, he and they on for size. Nothing fixed, no pressure.
Try the quiz →Darya's father said the wrong thing first, but chose his daughter over his certainty and became the man she needed him to be.

There is no prescribed path once you decide to transition. Some people go in tiny steps and others change everything at once, depending on family, money and access to care. Social…
Chidi moved between two communities that did not quite hold him, until he stopped looking for a place to belong and started building one.
Maya spent the whole summer rehearsing a two-minute conversation with her headteacher, then burst out laughing halfway through because her hands would not stop shaking.
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