by Helen and Sammy
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One question a week, answered by the people it is actually about.
Thank you. I am keeping the answers to myself until Monday morning, so that nobody's vote nudges anybody else's. Come back then and I will show you the whole picture.
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Trans joy is real, ordinary, and worth celebrating. World Laughter Day is a chance to share the funny, tender, human stories from trans lives and trans healthcare that remind us…
Three quiet questions to help you listen to yourself.
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Online hate targeting trans people is not acceptable, full stop. The same standards we apply to racist or homophobic abuse must apply to transphobic comments, whether they appear…
No, trans people are not just autistic. The two can overlap, because both can involve difficulty fitting in, and some autistic people find it harder to hide who they are. But they…
Anaya spent her thirties explaining away a feeling she could never quite name, until a colleague's transition gave it one.

Her daughter already knew who she was. What her mum needed was someone to tell her that loving her child completely, and without condition, was exactly the right thing to do.

When trans people don't fit the system, they carry the cost: mismatched documents, forms with no right box, care pathways built for one kind of story, and waits that run for…
Try she, he and they on for size. Nothing fixed, no pressure.
Try the quiz →Farah, recently separated, sat her two young children down to say she was their mum now, and discovered that her six-year-old cared most about the bedtime voices.

Support a trans child by listening first and believing what they tell you, because you know your child better than anyone. Weigh other information by who it comes from, favouring…
Helen sat down to debate a woman who wanted her in prison, and found herself explaining, calmly, why trans people are allowed to exist.
There is no test or label that tells you that you are trans. Many people recognise it because the gender recorded on their birth certificate does not fit who they are, and that…
Sora's grandmother never learned the vocabulary, but she knew her grandchild completely, and on a quiet December morning she relabelled the Christmas stocking without anyone…
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