by Helen and Sammy
Nothing is off the cards.
One question a week, answered by the people it is actually about.
Thank you. I am keeping the answers to myself until Monday morning, so that nobody's vote nudges anybody else's. Come back then and I will show you the whole picture.
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The Democratic Party is retreating on trans rights, with figures like Amy Acton publicly referring to trans girls as boys. This is not a fringe position but a deliberate,…
Informed consent HRT means a doctor prescribes gender-affirming hormones once you understand and consent to the risks and benefits, without gatekeeping through psychological…
Three quiet questions to help you listen to yourself.
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Robyn was eleven when she was referred to the NHS gender service, and fourteen when she realised she might be seventeen before anyone saw her.

Trans people can and do have biological children, though the routes vary considerably depending on timing and what medical steps have been taken. Sperm can be stored before…
Her daughter already knew who she was. What her mum needed was someone to tell her that loving her child completely, and without condition, was exactly the right thing to do.

Try she, he and they on for size. Nothing fixed, no pressure.
Try the quiz →An autistic man who spent decades quietly finding himself asked Sammy whether the same child, born into today's world, would have been guided somewhere he was never meant to go.

A young person goes to their paediatrician hoping finally to be understood, and leaves with their identity questioned and their care delayed.
Society makes room for small groups all the time, through step-free access, braille and sign language, because everybody matters whatever the numbers. Including trans people is…
Rachel had rehearsed the conversation for months, at three in the morning, alone. What she could not have rehearsed was how ordinary it would turn out to be.
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