by Helen and Sammy
Nothing is off the cards.
One question a week, answered by the people it is actually about.
Thank you. I am keeping the answers to myself until Monday morning, so that nobody's vote nudges anybody else's. Come back then and I will show you the whole picture.
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NHS gender clinic waiting lists now exceed 80 months in many parts of the UK, with some clinics projecting waits measured in decades rather than years. Private care is available…
Three quiet questions to help you listen to yourself.
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A non-binary person changes their workplace not with a speech but with an email signature and months of quiet, patient repetition.

Kabir braced for rejection when he came out as a trans man to his watch, and found instead that the men he worked with simply got on with it.

Try she, he and they on for size. Nothing fixed, no pressure.
Try the quiz →A mother in India wrote to Helen about her trans daughter and the man in their home who frightened them both. What followed was a conversation about what it really means to keep…

Chidi moved between two communities that did not quite hold him, until he stopped looking for a place to belong and started building one.
Mei spent months relearning her voice in secret, until one Tuesday phone call made her realise the smallest reclamations land the hardest.
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