by Helen and Sammy
Nothing is off the cards.
One question a week, answered by the people it is actually about.
Thank you. I am keeping the answers to myself until Monday morning, so that nobody's vote nudges anybody else's. Come back then and I will show you the whole picture.
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The Democratic Party is retreating on trans rights, with figures like Amy Acton publicly referring to trans girls as boys. This is not a fringe position but a deliberate,…
She hadn't slept the night before, convinced that walking into a restaurant would give her away. Then the waitress asked what she could get the ladies, and a noise that had been…
Three quiet questions to help you listen to yourself.
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Trans people can and do have biological children, though the routes vary considerably depending on timing and what medical steps have been taken. Sperm can be stored before…
Yara was seventeen when her home went cold, and what followed was not a loss but a discovery: that family can be chosen, and sometimes the people who choose you love you better…

Diane had known since the eighties, buried it through addiction and a rebuilt life, and then told her wife the truth over dinner on a Tuesday, and everything shifted.

Try she, he and they on for size. Nothing fixed, no pressure.
Try the quiz →Salma came out to her devout elderly parents in her forties, and discovered that love and faith can travel slowly and still arrive.

No, trans people are not just autistic. The two can overlap, because both can involve difficulty fitting in, and some autistic people find it harder to hide who they are. But they…
Rachel had rehearsed the conversation for months, at three in the morning, alone. What she could not have rehearsed was how ordinary it would turn out to be.
She was two years into a waiting list when she realised she had already been waiting long enough.
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